2. Комментарий использован с разрешения автора.

3. Комментарий использован с разрешения автора.

Препятствия

1. Brene Brown, I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t): Telling the Truth about Perfectionism, Inadequacy, and Power (New York: Penguin/Gotham Books, 2007).

2. Наиболее исчерпывающий обзор современных исследований стыда и чувства вины вы можете найти в книге Shame and Guilt June Price Tangney and Ronda L. Dearing (New York: Guilford Press, 2002).

3. Linda M. Hartling, Wendy Rosen, Maureen Walker, and Judith V. Jordan, Shame and Humiliation: From Isolation to Relational Transformation, Work in Progress No. 88 (Wellesley, MA: The Stone Center, Wellesley College, 2000).

Ступень № 1. Рискните быть собой

1. James R. Mahalik, Elisabeth B. Morray, Aimee Coonerty-Femiano, Larry H. Ludlow, Suzanne M. Slattery, and Andrew Smiler, “Development of the Conformity to Feminine Norms Inventory, ” Sex Roles 52, no. 7–8 (2005): 417–35.

2. James R. Mahalik, W. Tracy Talmadge, Benjamin D. Locke, and Ryan P. J. Scott, “Using the Conformity to Masculine Norms Inventory to Work with Men in a Clinical Setting, ” Journal of Clinical Psychology 61, no. 6 (2005): 661–74; James R. Mahalik, Benjamin D. Locke, Larry H. Ludlow, Matthew A. Diemer, Ryan P. J. Scott, Michael Gottfried, and Gary Freitas, “Development of the Conformity to MasculineNorms Inventory, ” Psychology of Men and Msculinity 4, no. 1 (2003): 3–25.

3. Блог Katherine Center, эссе для видео Defining a Movement, опубликовано 28 января 2010 г., http://katherinecenter.com/defining-a-movement/.

Ступень № 2. Сочувствуйте себе

1. Anna Quindlen, “Anna Quindlen’s Commencement Speech”, http://www.mtholyoke.edu/offices/comm/oped/Quindlen.shtml; Anna Quindlen, Being Perfect (NY: Random House, 2005).

2. Joe Scott, “The Effect of Perfectionism and Unconditional Self-Acceptance on Depression, ” Journal of Rational-Emotive and Cognitive-Behavior Therapy 25, no. 1 (2007): 35–64; Anna M. Brandone-Cone, Katrina Sturm, Melissa A. Lawson, D. Paul Robinson, and Roma Smith, “Perfectionism across Stages of Recovery from Eating Disorders, ” International Journal of Eating Disorders 43, no. 2 (2010): 139–48; Hyunjoo Park, P. Paul Heppner, and Dong-gwi Lee, “Maladaptive Coping and Self-Esteem as Mediators between Perfectionism and Psychological Distress, ” Personality and Individual Differences 48, no. 4 (March 2010): 469–74

3. Christopher K. Germer, The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion: Freeing Yourself from Destructive Thoughts and Emotions (New York: Guilford Press, 2009).

4. Kristin D. Neff, “Self-Compassion: An Alternative Conceptualization of a Healthy Attitude Toward Oneself, ” Self and Identity 2 (2003): 85–101.

5. Kristin D. Neff, “The Development and Validation of a Scale to Measure Self-Compassion, ”, Self and Identity 2 (2003): 223–50.

6. Leonard Cohen, “Anthem, ” The Future, 1992, Columbia Records.

Ступень № 3. Не сдавайтесь

1. http://bonesigharts.com.

2. Suniya S. Luthar, Dante Cicchetti, and Bronwyn Becker, “The Construct of Resilience: A Critical Evaluation and Guidelines for Future Work, ” Child Development 71, no. 3 (2000): 543–62; Suniya S. Luthar and Dante Cicchetti, “The Construct of Resilience: Implications for Interventions and Social Policies, ” Development and Psychopathology 12 (2000): 857–85; Christine E. Agaibi and John P. Wilson, “Trauma, PTSD, and Resilience: A Review of the Literature, ” Trauma, Violence, and Abuse 6, no. 3 (2005): 195–216; Anthony D. Ong, C. S. Bergeman, Toni L. Bisconti, and Kimberly A. Wallace, “Psychological Resilience, Positive Emotions, and Successful Adaptation to Stress in Later Life, ” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology91, no. 4 (2006): 730–49.

3. C.R. Snyder, Psychology of Hope: You Can Get There from Here, paperback ed. (New York: Free Press, 2003); C. R. Snyder, “Hope Theory: Rainbows in the Mind,” Psychological Inquiry 13, no. 4 (2002): 249–75.

4. C.R. Snyder, Kenneth A. Lehman, Ben Kluck, and Yngve Monsson, “Hope for Rehabilitation and Vice Versa, ” Rehabilitation Psychology 51, no. 2 (2006):89–112; C. R. Snyder, “Hope Theory: Rainbows in the Mind,” Psychological Inquiry 13, no. 4 (2002): 249–75.

5. Jean Kilbourne, “Lecture Series: What Are Advertisers Really Selling Us? ” http://jeankilbourne.com/?page_id=45144.

6. Killing Us Softly 4: Advertising’s Image of Women, DVD, directed by Sut Jhally (Northampton, MA: Media Education Foundation, 2010).

7. Tough Guise: Violence, Media, and the Crisis in Masculinity, DVD, directed by Sut Jhally (Northampton, MA: Media Education Foundation, 1999).

8. Gerard J. Connors, Stephen A. Maisto, and William H. Zywiak, “Male and Female Alcoholics’ Attributions Regarding the Onset and Termination of Relapses and the Maintenance of Abstinence, ” Journal of Substance Abuse 10, no. 1 (1998): 27–42; G. Alan Marlattand Dennis M. Donovan, Relapse Prevention: Maintenance Strategies in the Treatment of Addictive Behaviors, 2nd ed. (New York: Guilford Press, 2007); Norman S. Miller and Mark S. Gold, “Dissociation of ‘Conscious Desire’ (Craving) from and Relapse in Alcohol and Cocaine Dependence, ” Annals of Clinical Psychology 6, no. 2 (1994): 99–106.

Ступень № 4. Радуйтесь и учитесь благодарить жизнь

1. Anne Robertson, “Joy or Happiness?” St. John’s United Methodist Church, http://www.stjohnsdover.org/99adv3.html. Использовано с разрешения автора.

2. Lynne Twist, The Soul of Money: Transforming Your Relationship with Money and Life (New York: W.W. Norton and Company, 2003), 44

3. Там же, 75.

4. Brene Brown, I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t): Telling the Truth about Perfectionism, Inadequacy, and Power (New York: Penguin/Gotham Books, 2007), 204–205.

Ступень № 5. Полагайтесь на интуицию и прислушивайтесь к себе

1. “Intuition”, http://www.dictionary.com (по состоянию на 17 февраля 2010 г.)

2. David G. Myers, Intuition: Its Powers and Perils (New Haven, CT: Yale University Press, 2002); Gerd Gigerenzer, Gut Feelings: The Intelligence of the Unconscious (London: Penguin Books, 2008).

3. Richard Rohr, “Utterly Humbled by Mystery, ” опубликовано 18 декабря 2006 г., National Public Radio “This I Believe”, http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyID= 6631954 (по состоянию на 15 февраля 2010 г.)

4. Anne Lamott, Plan B: Further Thoughts on Faith, paperback ed. (New York: Penguin Group, Riverhead Books, 2006), 256–57.

5. Anne Lamott, Bird by Bird: Some Instructions on Writing and Life (New York: Random House, Anchor Books, 1995); Anne Lamott, Grace (Eventually): Thoughts on Faith, paperback ed. (New York: Penguin Group, Riverhead Books, 2008).