constant criticism and reminding him of your merits, or you really didn’t do anything.

It's time to change, ladies, that's what I tell myself. It is advisable to marry yourself every day to remind yourself to become a better person.

Here, by the way, it is important not to overdo it, otherwise especially impressionable people will begin to reproach themselves for imperfection.

It’s not worth it, I’m not a tyrant to drive you into complexes. I'm on your side. I also have cellulite. I come from a poor family and have achieved everything in this life through my own labor, and not through the money of my parents or husband.

By the way, we were both broke when we started living together in Krasnodar. He was in a financial crisis then, I just believed in him and that’s all.

So, if any of you now snorted, saying that she allows herself to force us to be something for the sake of someone who may be cheating on me, or will betray me in marriage, who is not ideal himself, then let’s do it again I’ll write figuratively.

Here you have an image of an ideal. He is unconditionally loyal to you, decency itself and there is nothing to complain about (by your standards). Of course you're fine with the fact that he farts occasionally (oh, my favorite word in this book, the editor will say), but he doesn't have any flaws that annoy you personally.

Now you see a real man. You check. Almost there. But how it really is, life will show. You imagined a drawn image, placed it like a mask on your beloved, and moved in there.

Where?

In the mask.

Look at yourself from the mask. Is it good? Or are these lumps in the eyes a little embarrassing? Ok, I’ll take care of myself and carry a mirror in my purse. Does he cry often? It is unpleasant. Then I’ll take courses to become more resilient to other people’s words and insults. I'll stop crying over trifles. And so on.

Then you live together. You are so cool, but cool for whom? For that mask that was pulled on the guy. And he, seeing such a princess next to him, will start what? Pull yourself up to the ideal that you have attached to it. This is also called, believing in a person, seeing his potential, giving beingness.

And when such a person still could not stand it due to some base impulses and betrayed you, then you boldly take this mask from him and put it on someone else. And this man will lose the treasure. And moreover, they will speak well of you.

Do not confuse this with a situation where the wife is hysterical and proves that she is a superwife. I'm talking about real princesshood.

Such an adulterer will even leave his apartment to you after marriage, so that his beloved, whom he upset so much, will not be left homeless. He will try to be on your level and act like a gentleman.

The girls, once again, are not to be confused with a person who did nothing but look down on her husband, reproach him and behave like a queen with her servants.

Such a woman idolized her husband, realizing that he was earthly and imperfect. And even after betrayal, she knows her worth, does not humiliate him, helps him get out of the situation, forgives him, and calmly divorces him with friends. She receives his financial support, decent treatment and admiration in conversations with others.

Well, you say, I turned it down. There are no such things.

It happens, I saw it myself. At least three of these women are very happy in their new marriages and maintain relationships with their exes. They are carried in their arms, doors are opened for them, their hands are kissed and they are extolled in conversation with friends.

They are cheerful, glowing with happiness, idolizing their husbands.

And what about me? Yes, I strive to become better, I’m not a hundred percent princess yet, because sometimes a man wakes up in me anyway, who wants to burp or walk around unshaven, make fun of my husband or be offended like a teenager.

But all this is forgiven when the desire and how I change is visible.

So, I see you are tired of lecturing and moralizing.

OK. Let's play. Now you take your phone and set the camera to your height. Turn towards yourself.

And that’s it, start making faces, being yourself, to the fullest, dancing, singing. You won't show this to anyone. Burp, blow your nose, fart, scratch yourself, laugh as hard as you love, cry, get angry, swear like a cobbler, spit.

The task is to break away.

And send it all to me.

No, don't, I'm kidding.

Now just watch the video, admire yourself, and you can delete it.

Good game?

Did you like it?

If you didn't like some things, then do them differently. Learn to be more delicate, more mannered, or completely stop doing something in public, only in private.

If everything suits you, then probably the ideal you picture for yourself will be a biker or some kind of anarchist, maybe a hardcore lover. Then don’t forget to give your betrothed such characteristics.

I know one decent lady who sold diamond grinders and was very attractive, except for the moment when, during a quarrel with suppliers, she could throw out a couple of juicy swear words. So in the description (and she actually wrote two sheets of wishes for her future man), she took into account the fact that he would like this behavior of hers, and he would even admire her.

You know, when she found herself a tall, handsome, rich Australian, he had everything on the list, and in addition, when he first heard