Socially isolated people are more irritable John T. Cacioppo and Stephanie Cacioppo, "Social Relationships and Health: The Toxic Effects of Perceived Social Isolation," Social and Personality Psychology Compass, May 15, 2014.

When Americans were asked how many confidants they had Miller McPherson, Lynn Smith-Lovin, and Matthew E. Brashears, "Social Isolation in America: Changes in Core Discussion Networks Over Two Decades," American Sociological Review, June 2006.

One in three people report feeling lonely Judith Shulevitz, "The Lethality of Loneliness: We Now Know How It Can Ravage Our Body and Brain," The New Republic, May 12, 2013.

Fifty percent of Canadians say they "often feel alone" "A Portrait of Social Isolation and Loneliness in Canada Today," Angus Reid Institute, June 17, 2019.

Fifty percent of Americans say they "lack companionship" "New Cigna Study Reveals Loneliness at Epidemic Levels in America," Cigna Global Health Insurance, May 1, 2018.

In the U.K., 60 percent of respondents listed their pet Rob Knight, "New Study Reveals How Pets Are Therapeutic for Lonely, Overworked People and for Those with Little Interaction Outside of Social Media," The Independent, September 20, 2018.

More than a half-million people under forty who haven't left their homes "Why Won't 541,000 YoungJapanese Leave the House?," CNN, September 12, 2016.

Loneliness may be worse for longevity Sharon Kiekey, "Researchers Are Working on a Pill for Loneliness, as Studies Suggest the Condition Is Worse Than Obesity," National Post, August 12, 2019.

Chronic loneliness has also been linked with an increased risk Javier Yanguas, Sacramento Pinazo-Henandis, and Francisco Jose Tarazona-Santabalbina, "The Complexity of Loneliness," Acta Biomedica, 2018.

Being lonely increased a woman's risk of dying Julianne Holt-Lunstad, Timothy B. Smith, and J. Bradley Layton, "Social Relationships and Mortality Risk: A Meta-Analytic Review," PLOS One, July 27, 2010.

Socially isolated kids have significantly poorer health outcomes Ayshalom Caspi, Hona Lee Harrington, and Terrie E. Moffitt, "Socially Isolated Children 20 Years Later: Risk of Cardiovascular Disease," Journal of the American Medical Association, August 2006.

Loneliness and social isolation are major precipitants of suicide Raffaella Calati, Chiara Ferrari, Marie Brittner, Osmano Oasi, Emilie Olie, Andre F. Carvalho, and Philippe Courtet, "Suicidal Thoughts and Behaviors and Social Isolation: A Narrative Review of the Literature," Journal of Affective Disorders, February 15, 2019.

Toddlers were able to learn to clap Lauren J. Myers, Rachel B. LeWitt, Renee E. Gallo, and Nicole M. Maselli, "Baby FaceTime: Can Toddlers Learn from Online Video Chat?," Developmental Science, 2016.

Whether Skype could help older people beat the blues Alan Teo, Sheila Markwardt, and Ladson Hinton, "Using Skype to Beat the Blues: Longitudinal Data from a National Representative Sample," The American Journal of Geriatric Psychiatry, March 2019.

A single friend is enough to ward off depression William M. Bukowski, Brett Laursen, and Betsy Hoza, "The Snowball Effect: Friendship Moderates Escalations in Depressed Affect Among Avoidant and Excluded Children," Development and Psychopathy, October 1, 2010.

Fifty-one percent of Britons said empathy has noticeably declined Robert Booth, "Majority of Britons Think Empathy Is on the Wane," The Guardian, October 4, 2018.

Empathy in university students is down Jamil Zaki, "What, Me Care? Young Are Less Empathetic," Scientific American Mind, January 1, 2011.

Sixth graders who went five days Yalda Uhls, Minas Michikyan, Jordan Morris, Debra Garcia, Gary W. Small, Eleni Zgourou, and Patricia M. Greenfield, "Five Days at Outdoor Education Camp Without Screens Improves Preteen Social Skills with Nonverbal Emotion Cues," Computers in Human Behavior, October 2014.

The more "moral emotion"—the more outrage — a tweet contained William J. Brady, Julian A. Wills, John T. Jost, Joshua A. Tucker, and Jay J. Van Bavel, "Emotion Shapes the Diffusion of Moralized Content in Social Networks," PNAS, July 11, 2017.

24 percent of the teens said they'd been sexually harassed Thomas J. Holt and Andy Henion, "Identifying Predictors of Unwanted Online Sexual Conversations Among Youth Using a Low Self-Control and Routine Activity Framework," Journal of Contemporary CriminalJustice, 2015.

People afraid of looking bad in a partner's eyes sexted more Michelle Drouin, Jody Ross, and Elizabeth Jenkins, "Sexting: A New, Digital Vehicle for Intimate Partner Violence?", Computers in Human Behavior, September, 2015.

7. Подключенные к творчеству

72 percent believe children today have fewer imaginary friends Sarah Young, "Excessive Screen Time Is Killing Children's Imaginations Say Nursery Workers," The Independent, August 26, 2019.

Inspirational lightning strikes happen only when we allow our brains to roam John Kounios and Mark Beeman, The Eureka Factor: Aha Moments, Creative Insight and the Brain, Random House, April 14, 2015.

8. Интуиция

The Motivation Ruler Center for Substance Abuse Treatment, "Enhancing Motivation for Change in Substance Abuse Treatment." Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration/Centre for Substance Abuse Treatment Improvement Protocols (TIP), No. 35, 1999.

SMART goals are goals that are George T. Doran, "There's a S.M.A.R.T. Way to Write Management's Goals and Objectives." Management Review (AMAFORUM), November, 1981.

Decisional Balance Center for Substance Abuse Treatment, "Enhancing Motivation for Change in Substance Abuse Treatment." Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration/Centre for Substance Abuse Treatment Improvement Protocols (TIP), No. 35, 1999.

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